Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse

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Signs of narcissistic abuse:

  • Gaslighting

  • Love-bombing

  • Shame/rage spirals when you name the poor behavior or set a boundary

  • Dismissiveness, invalidation, minimization, manipulation, exploitation, rage, reactivity

  • Feeling isolated from friends and family

Have you been navigating a complex, toxic relationship?

One where you don’t feel seen or heard?

Second-guessing yourself and your own intuition?

Hearing from friends, family, or professionals that this dynamic is scary and sad for them to watch?

Finding yourself wondering how you ended up here?

Jay’s the perfect person for you to work through some of these issues with. Jay is not only a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, but they have experienced this specific type of abuse across different settings.

Meaning? They will meet you where you’re at, help you walk back home to your most authentic self, and pick up the pieces of yourself that you feel were “stolen” or “lost” in these relationships.

Narcissistic abuse can happen in any dynamic - family, friend, partner, community, or workplace.

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What is Narcissistic Abuse?

Narcissistic abuse is a type of emotional and psychological harm where someone uses manipulation and control while demeaning the other person. This includes:

Manipulation

Criticism and devaluation

Control

Lack of empathy

Love bombing/idealization

Isolation

Some key terminology when discussing narcissistic abuse:

  • Gaslighting - a form of psychological manipulation where the narcissist makes the other person question their own reality, perceptions, and feelings. This is used to gain/maintain control of the other person, which creates confusion & self-doubt.

  • Love bombing - excessive attention and affection to maintain a level of control, then to later withdraw as a form to continue control

  • DARVO - Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender

  • DIMMER - dismissiveness, invalidation, minimization, manipulation, exploitation, rage and reactivity

  • Betrayal blindness - the tendency of people to ignore or be blind to the harmful actions of someone they love or trust

  • Trauma bond - the strong emotional attachment that can develop between an abuser (the narcissist/antagonistic person) and the other person, despite that person experiencing significant harm/suffering. This “bond” creates a cycle of codependency/loyalty, which makes it difficult for the other person to leave the relationship.

Our favorite quote:

“I think that people don’t forgive definitely feel peace. I think people who don’t feel peace are the people who forgive and keep getting harmed. People who forgive who weren’t ready to forgive. Healing from narcissistic abuse, is individuating, becoming autonomous, and ultimately rising into your authentic self. And your authentic self may not forgive. And that’s okay.”

-Dr. Ramani Durvasula